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The January Masquerade

Motivation and consistency - why is it so difficult to keep it up? In a few hours, it will be 2026. To a lot of us, the month of January is nothing more than just a digestion period for whatever was eaten during the holidays. Though, did you know it is also the busiest month worldwide for subscriptions in any field or domain? Magazines, sports clubs, language classes, music lessons, marathons... Sky is the limit, right? The problem being that once you have reached the sky, there's only one way back and the fall might hurt a bit. To me, the worst part of January dwells in that awful question random family members and friends ask: what are your resolutions for the year to come? Well, I don't know Aunt Karen. According to last year's numbers; staying alive, not getting too fat or too sick from refined sugars and pesticides, not finding out that my husband has a Tinder profile or getting a decently paid job and being able to pay my bills while not having a micromanaging-boss ac...
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A Millennial's Cynic Hope

Growing older, we all change. Fact. But somehow, one's either part of those who deny change and keep on telling us (and themselves) that they 'will always be young'. Or, one may be part of the second half: those who expect to change and move on. What we're less prepared to witness is the people around us, to change as well. Children grow, elders get older, parents become grandparents, opportunities present themselves and life-changing decisions that, at first, appeared innocent, are made along the way. And yet, there are small things we keep on missing or tend to close our eyes on in these changes. Among the silent memories we gather are unfortunate habits we wish we had noticed sooner. I've been silently observing the situation like a spectator or an intrusive narrator with nothing interesting to say. I realized, what was once a genuine moment such as hanging out with friends, having a drink or a smoke after work on a terrace... Was easily becoming an addiction for...
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On Wanting a Child: Deciding not to Decide

'To have a kid or not to have a kid, that is the question.' If Shakespeare had been a woman, perhaps we could have read such a quotation in his works. But, he wasn't and I'm pretty sure that was one of the last things he would have thought of talking about in his writings. Instead, our girl Jane Austen took the matter in her own hands when she wrote to her niece; "[...] by not beginning the business of mothering quite so early in life, you will be young in constitution, spirits, figure and countenance, while Mrs. Wm. Hammond is growing old by confinements and nursing ." We get it Jane, you had better things to do than spending your most precious years taking care of Mr. Darcy's babies. Who wants to be in their thirties and watching thier girlies getting married, pregnant and then, divorced? For the past few months, I've been forced to answer the same questions over and over. As I entered my thirties, it seems like everyone close to me had received an i...
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"Unattractive" at Age? A Myth Debunked

They say 'when women age, they're no longer attractive'. That statement has always struck me as utterly pointless. Mainly because it is misogynistic and creates a bigger gap between genders. It also reminds me of unspoken social rules that I'm very aware of but try to forget as I go about my day. But, more than that, I always thought it lacked precision to even start becoming debatable. Attractive to whom? And what kind of attractiveness are we talking about exactly? What is attractive to me might not be to you and vice versa. Anyone hearing such an opinion and thinking about it for a few seconds, would get to the conclusion that it is indeed, demeaning and senseless. Or they should. And that's the point. They should. Because some of them don't. So, I'm starting to wonder; what are we missing here? What's stronger than pure logic and common sense? Dont' get too excited, I don't have all of the answers. But, I do have theories. Theories that are p...
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